The world of the internet is full of great advice. You can find tips on how to do (or not do) just about anything.
- How to build your email list.
- How to design your own website from scratch.
- How to make money online.
- How to save money on your groceries.
- One simple way to get your kids ready on time (this is an actual article I found on Pinterest that I’m totally trying!)
When it comes to less tangible matters – like time management, parenting or anything related to mindset, for example – do you expect that the writer has it totally figured out and does it perfectly all the time?
I sure do hope NOT.
None of us are perfect. I’m far from it. I write about prioritizing and letting go of overwhelm and guilt and organizing your life. Do you think I never feel overwhelmed? Do you expect me to never feel guilty? Is it safe to assume that I have my life totally under control and I know exactly what I’m doing at all times?
If you do expect that, honey, you are in the wrong place. I give you permission to stop reading and go find some other perfect “guru” to follow because I’m not your jam. I’m FAR from perfect (although I play a perfectionist in my head). The things that I write about I struggle with DAILY. That’s right. Every. Single. Day.
Does that make me a fraud? You might think so. I don’t. I think it makes me human.
We all have messy moments
Right now, I’m juggling a lot of things – new projects, new ideas that may be projects. To say I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed and uncertain about what to do next would be a HUGE understatement. Lately,
some most days I stare at my computer and my list and have no idea what to do first. Too many choices. Too many priorities. Too many things that need my attention in order to work. If I’m being honest, I’m not sure how it’s going to play out and how I’m going to mentally organize all of it. That’s the reality. It gets messy sometimes. REALLY messy.
Just because I don’t DO everything just so and don’t always have everything figured out, doesn’t mean that I don’t know some strategies that may help someone else – or even myself
if when I stop to implement them.
I have followed enough honest “experts” to know that everyone has a story behind the highlight real that is portrayed on social media or through email. Everyone has struggles. Everyone has some kind of limiting belief that makes it hard for them to act on some of the things they teach all the time. Everyone at some point has felt like a fraud when they published that blog post or hit send on that email.
Perfect isn’t important
No one is perfect but the point is that they don’t stop trying…and learning…and implementing as much as they can. And they don’t stop picking themselves up when they fall flat on their face and outright FAIL at the very thing they preach. They don’t stop even when they feel like a fraud because people need to know that it’s ok to screw up. The important part – SHARE THE SCREW UP. Being real is way more important than being perfect.
It’s ok to feel inadequate. It happens to EVERYBODY. What’s important is that you go out there and still try to HELP as many people as you can that struggle with the same thing. Together we can do this. It’s infinitely harder to do it alone.
I still feel like a train wreck sometimes. Most of the time if you ask my husband or close friends. I still doubt myself and my abilities as a mom, entrepreneur, coach, wife and whatever other roles I take on. That doesn’t mean that I don’t know what could help someone else. It means that even coaches need coaches. Everyone needs help and encouragement to get out of our own head. Sometimes an outsider’s perspective on our situation is just what we need to get over that hump of indecision and doubt.
Stop feeling bad that you aren’t perfect and I’ll work on doing the same. Let’s accept everyone’s beautiful imperfections and work together to get to our goals and have the life we’re striving for.
“Life has it’s failures but this is not it. The only true failure can come if you quit.”